On sunday I attended my first ever Joy Workshop by the very well-known motivational speaker NithyaShanti. It was an open session, hosted by someone at their residence in gurgaon (I didn’t know a single soul there; but there were some 100+ people attending the session)
The very first thing that struck me about him was his easy-going manner and such a pleasant smile – it drew everyone in. When he started talking, a mobile phone buzzed in (seriously ) and he paused to smile and say; every time a phone will ring, we will take a deep breathe and say together – How Wonderful! No irritation; no admonishment for putting phone on silent – nothing!
Very soon, it happened again…. and again…… and again…… all throughout the session. Every time he paused to say How wonderful, we all began to laugh with him. Gone was my irritation or judgement over this. And I marvelled at the easy and effective manner in which he had diffused something that’s so rude, arrogant and unpleasant.
He spoke of how we can all use this chant to alter our daily life; I tried to envision some examples of applying this and was sure of aggravating the violence than abating it. Dont belive me – have a look below:
Husband and wife fighting; wife telling him that he never listens and he simply says, “How wonderful!”
(I think he will get shot for sure!!! )
Mother scolding her child for an unkept room / not eating veggies, etc – child says,“How wonderful!”
( grounded for life in my opinion)
Household help broke an expensive glass bowl – me saying How wonderful – nope! not happening!!!!
(I will be pulling my hair and muttering all day long)
Jokes apart, it is a great way to look at things which irritate us or make us feel helpless. I know its tough and we can’t look at the bright side of things constantly. But that’s what his message was in the entire two hours – the power of thoughts and how they can change our life.
He questioned our belief of god and asked if we believe every person has god inside of him/her – we all affirmed this! He reasoned further – So then we should be able to look at every person through the disguise and treat all the same – all as images of god! Then there is no judgement or anger or malice – no agenda in how we interact with everyone.
Wow! this was such a powerful thought and took a while for it to assimilate through me; but when it did, it took away some of my anger with it.
An agenda – less interaction with everyone you meet or interact with everyday! I think its a very difficult thing to do and would take so much confidence and faith in myself to begin to do this. For everytime I meet someone new, I am always looking to impress (subconsciously) and am on my best behaviour. This is a natural instinct, maybe born out of conditioning and so not so natural after all, but its an innate response we all possess.
I think I am going to try and work on this as I found it to be very powerful and wonderful!