I consider myself a huge Shah Rukh Khan and I don’t mind admitting I have pretty torrid fantasies involving him (and me of course). I first fell in love with SRK at age 14 when I happened to watch the second episode of tele-series Fauji. Ever since that day I have watched pretty much everything with him in it.
I sometimes think that the reason why I couldn’t find boys my age attractive is because of this fixation with Shah Rukh Khan at such an early age. I could never get into any boy from school or college days as they fell way below standard 😉
Dont believe me, then read my fan letter to Shah Rukh Khan here
Now you must be wondering why am I boring you with my obsession with Shah Rukh Khan and that too on a Monday Musing post?
I have been very upset at the constant stream of divisive politics and the subsequent hate crimes being reported from all over the country. The Hindu-Muslim divide has never been this huge in our country than in the present political climate. And its sickening and absurd to stomach daily.
As I was penning down a post on my thoughts on this malady, I was reminded of how I have been a witness of this dialogue in my circle of friends and family. And you know what prompted the ire at me, twice? Yup you guessed it right – Shah Rukh Khan!!!
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About 15 years back, I was chilling out at my older sister’s place. Her brother and his family were down from Dubai for a India vacay. One afternoon, my 14-15 year old niece, Bhabhi and me were gossiping away when my niece happened to mention the name of a class fellow. Bhabhi verbally pounced on her as the boy’s name indicated he was Muslim. She was outraged that the niece is friendly with him and proceeded to tell her how we must avoid/hate Muslims.
I was shocked and rounded on her for brainwashing a teenager with hateful thoughts. This wasn’t right and since the child has parents, they can probably guide her on this. But Bhabhi’s sermon was unwarranted and very out of place. I was gobsmacked to know this intelligent and vivacious woman (I used to really look up to her till that day) is such a bigot.
She justified her stance with her experience of living in the middle east and witnessing first hand how the Muslims treat women. I asked her why is she living in such a country that disgusts her so much? Why does she party with such people if their way of segregating men and women at such occasion galls her?
She answered like a typical hypocrite – “my husband works for these people and we are there only to earn money. Its my place to socialize with his bosses and other work people.”
Wow!! I was stunned to hear this. At the same time I told her that if I could, I would marry Shah Rukh Khan as I love him.
She recoiled and said that if I ever married a Muslim, she would kill me!!!!
Needless to tell you, the atmosphere in the room turned very hostile and uncomfortable. My sister intervened and that was the end of that. But to date, I remember this conversation and have never been able to respect this SIL of mine; nor I ever will!
Couple of years back, I was in Bangalore visiting my sister. One night we went to one of her hubby’s cousin’s place who hosted the dinner to welcome me to Bangalore. I was in no mood to socialize with her in-laws but since the invite was put in this way, refusing was very rude.
When we got there, both the gentlemen became engrossed in their conversations about Modi and Gujrat, etc. The lady of the house was chit chatting with me and asked me if I have seen Raees – the latest SRK movie. My sister piped in that she has a partner in crime, as I am an avid fan – just like her. So ofcourse both of us began to gush about his dimple, eyes and ……………..
Suddenly my BIL rounded on me asking me why was I in love with a Pakistani?
Initially I thought he was kidding and made light of his statement. But then the host also joined in and both of them proceeded to have the most ludicrous conversation with me. Their logic about him being a “traitor” was so so funny that I was laughing at them. That of course infuriated them further.
Seeing both the wives in a state of utter shock and fear made me realize that these men were serious and really really hated Shah Rukh Khan.
I cant tell you how sickening this evening was for me and how terrible I felt at being treated so by my own brother in law. Whatever his thought process, he was downright rude and offensive to me – something uncalled for as I was a guest. Dont even get me started on how vitriolic his cousin was. They called me unpatriotic as I refused to say I hate Pakistan.
Needless to say, I have a very strained relationship with my BIL and tread on egg shells around him. BTW his justification of his hate of Muslims is that he is an army officer’s son and all Indian army people hate Muslims and Pakis alike.
I wonder what the Muslim officers in Indian army go through if this is indeed true!
Oh and get this – their ire was only for SRK and the other Khans in the industry were patriots. Their logic was so hare brained that I am not going to get into it here.
*In case you didn’t know, I am from J of Jammu & Kashmir and have first hand experience of the tension due to militancy in the state. No one should think of lecturing me on evils of Pakistan. I have grown up with Muslim friends and to this day visit their homes where I am welcomed and loved. For me Muslim is never equal to Pakistani. I have always maintained my disgust at religious interpretation in our country. I don’t follow any religion neither do I hate any. For me humanity is the biggest religion of all as intended by the Divine.*
This intolerance for Islam is not limited to just my family members but friend circle too. I was with some friends at a get-together in Gurgaon and two of the ladies are self professed RWingers. One of them started talking about how its all very well to be friends with Muslims but she drew a line at getting married to one. Others also chimed in with similar thoughts.
When I mentioned I am uncomfortable with this conversation, owing to my thought process, the topic was dropped in my presence. I was glad of that but since that day the way I look at those friends has changed.
Being from J&k, this dialogue has been there right through my growing years. I have admonished my parents for bringing something like this in my presence. Some of my closest childhood friends are also not averse to being a party in this debate.
I have often asked them to be true and not hypocrites. If they feel so strongly about this, then why employ Muslims as workers? Why do business with Muslim vendors? Why not just boycott them totally in support of their beliefs?
I have asked them to ensure that if they ever are lying bleeding on the road, first check if the person helping them is a Muslim or not. Same for a blood transfusion to save their life. Under no circumstance should they take the help of a Muslim.
I am called overtly sensitive and hot headed by them all, as a response to this. This dialogue is muted now in my presence as I do react to it. I am intolerant of people with Islamophobia and would be grateful for such individuals to break off relations with me please. Take this post as an appeal for my sanity and just get as far away from me as possible. Doesn’t matter what our relation is or how long we have known each other.
I will not tolerate hypocricy, what-aboutery, bigotry and religious hatred in my life from anyone.
If this world would do away with religion, our politics would get cleaned up in a heartbeat.The world would be such a better place without all the religious shit that’s shoved down our throats daily.
I love Shah Rukh Khan to this day and would marry him in a jiffy. He only has to ask 😉
Okay I know this is a pretty hot headed post.. You have every right to stop being my friend and family, if you are offended by what I wrote.
But if you feel the way I do, please do share your thoughts on this post with me. I would love to know how many like minded peeps I am friends with 🙂
Linking this post with Corinne for the #MondayMusings