THE FAULT IN OUR STARES
There! Look at it! She has pierced her eyebrow. What on earth is wrong with these people?
Nudge. Wink. Point with lifted eyebrows n tilt of head – object of our introspection – a midriff exposed on a thin young girl in the mall.
He has a tattoo – did you see? He looks well-educated and even then he has done this.
My god what is she wearing? Didn’t she look in the mirror before stepping out today? This time we are offended by a not-so-thin womanly form who btw seems content with her look!
All day long something or someone catches our attention, leading to a judgemental stare.
Judgemental – as it’s outside our approved notion of purview.
Why do we indulge in such biases?
Why must we condemn someone’s choice, just with a look of ours?
Why can’t we be accepting of others choices for themselves?
Why is it so difficult?
I say it’s because of our years of generic conditioning fuelled by the standards of whats “morally” right and wrong.
Things have just been handed down to us over the years and accumulated in our heads forming a perspective that is so skewed that we give instant acceptance vis-à-vis the conditioning; without ever using our brains to question its sanctity!
So we have now formed a vicious circle of image/body/slut shaming in our heads, social circles and lives to the extent of risking our mental health and peace for it.
I say the fault lies in our way of examining things and giving it an easy acceptance as we are too scared to be judged in a similar manner if we don’t follow the prescribed path!
So someone’s conscious decision to not have children means infertility without a shadow of a doubt.
Someone’s decision to be Gay means they are mentally challenged and need to be “cleansed” of the “impurity”.
A single woman means non-marriageable material or a fast woman with dubious character. Worse follows if she speaks her mind, attends parties alone and heaven forbid if she smokes and drinks too!
A divorced woman means someone who couldn’t live up to the marital standards of her in-laws and husbands and is very much damaged goods.
And last but not the least, a rape survivor is branded as someone who asked for it.
I say shame on us and the system of thinking we have devised around us.
Shame on us for being so unsupportive and cruel in our attitude towards such lifestyles and mindsets.
When will we change the fault in our stares?
Come support this initiative with your opinion if you feel strongly about body/image shaming; for I am hosting folks writing their thoughts, experiences, opinions on this topic on my blog for next few weeks.
This post has been written for the first prompt of the #BarAThon ” The Fault in our Stares” – I am looking forward to hearing from my readers on this with bated breath!!! Cheers.