“You are so lucky, you can get up and take a holiday whenever you want or catch a movie at whim or just step out for coffee at a short notice – perks of being a single girl!!! You really don’t know how good you have it.”
Nodding heads around the coffee table from other women.
Oh I am sorry, I forgot to introduce them- married women with kids in all age brackets or about to have one or simply a single woman who is all set to get married next month. Some are my relatives, some are my friends, neighbours, office colleague…….. you get the drift!!!
You’d think after a decade of hearing this, I would be immune to it. But somehow no. I just don’t get it why “these” women refuse to acknowledge their life choices? They chose this lifestyle, rather they all craved it.
Their husband brings the money, the servant/driver the groceries, the cook cooks the food while a mother in law means a support system for you to leave the house unattended for the kitty party, salon/gym sessions. Not to mention the exotic and expensive holidays that they post pics on FB of. Yet they are not satisfied or happy with their chosen pie.
You wanna know what my pie of life looks like…..
I earn my money, buy my own groceries and cook it all too. If I fall ill, I am the one who drags her ass to the doctor and buy my own meds and do my own TLC. Oh and when a repair or service is due, I am house bound till the technician comes. Don’t even get me started on the courier chaps who insists that someone else will be home, if I am not!!! Aaaaaaaaargh!
Or when the sales/demo rep insists on speaking to “sir”!!!!!!!!!
Or the maid who raises her eyebrows in judgement when I say there is no “bhaiya”!!!!!
Or the looks I get when I go and sit in my fav cafe on a Sunday to enjoy my book and a lavish brunch on my own!
( Disclaimer: don’t get me wrong I happen to love my single life)
But no, then the same ladies tell me- you could have gotten married you know; almost as if this single life of pie is my fault simply because I dared to err by choosing to not go down the chosen garden path that they all did.
I think women love being martyrs and hate to see another woman living out of this mould; rather it’s seen as an act of blasphemy and they are not satisfied till they have converted her too.
I do wonder when and if this lifestyle shaming on women who choose to stay single, will ever change/stop?
Come support this initiative with your opinion if you feel strongly about body/image shaming; for I am hosting folks writing their experiences, opinions on this topic on my blog for next few weeks.
This post has been written for the second prompt of the #BarAThon ” The life of pie” – I am looking forward to hearing from my readers on this with bated breath!!! Cheers.
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