Your writing sucks!!! [ #MondayMusings ]

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” The first draft is just you telling the story to yourself” – Terry Pratchet

“Your writing sucks and people laugh behind your back at what you write!!!!!!”

Crushing? You bet your bottom dollar, it was. I was so heartbroken as it was said by a blogging friend fiend who retaliated over a perceived misdeed/misspoken word by me for her. Without waiting to clarify anything, she declared me Brutus and assailed me with verbal taunts and jibes over whatsapp ( Can you beat that? I wish she had the guts to talk to me over the phone, at least), so I had it in writing. Writing, that I went back to read again and again till I was sick in the face.

Needless to say the budding friendship was kaput and also left me wary of any other blogger wanting to be “friends” – do you blame me?

Yeah I vented over it; probably to some big ears with even bigger mouths and well I don’t need to write what happened next!!!

I let her get to me with her barbs and switched off from writing. I kept telling myself I am on a break as I have just finished a very hectic blogging month (#AtoZchallenge 2017) and its ok to sit on my laurels.For you see, the one month of blogging in April saw some of the highest stats ever on my blog. I had nearly 3000 views on my blog posts which on average means a 100 views per day!

But I took her words to heart and began to doubt my worth as a writer! I know you are calling me Pathetic! by now. I would too πŸ™‚

It was the announcement in June for Barathon 2017 (Blog-a-rhythm), that shook me out of my self-induced stupor and I decided to work on the prompts. At first, it took every ounce of my will power to delve into my writing zest and give it free rein to write again.

But to my joy, I found the posts easy peasy to write. Maybe because I wrote with a lot of heart and perhaps hurt!

The response and support of other bloggers in the blog fest was overwhelming. My stats were zooming like April and I couldn’t believe how much people connected with what I wrote about. My diatribe (and vitriol too, at times) was seen as honest and courageous expression.

I followed it up with another blog fest in July; #writebravely with WriteTribeΒ where once again my writing was loved and appreciated.

Phew!!!!

Over the past two months, I have interacted and read lots of new bloggers with some amazing writing verve. And to be adjudged by such terrific peers, is endorsement enough!!

I have made a vow of sorts to not let anyone ever detract me from my writing. I may not be one of the greatest writers of the 19th or even the 20th century, but I am ME and my writing is unique and is straight from my heart. And thats what really matters at the end of the day!!


What do you think of my heart pouring today?

Surprised that I let her get to me?

Or empathise cause its a blogger eat blogger world?

Share some pearls of wisdom please!

Linking up with #MondayMusings with Corinne

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Passionate about everything design, I am in love with photography, travel and baking. My writing journey was initiated with my letter writing hobby as a child and has metamorphosised into serious blogging. I indulge with reading fantasy fiction, day dreaming and sipping good wine.

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51 thoughts on “Your writing sucks!!! [ #MondayMusings ]

  1. All power to you Shalz … “Rudeness is weak persons imitation of strength” – Eric Hoffer
    You did not let that person crush you and came out of it strong. I admire your. You go girl..there is no stopping now..!

    1. Thank you Keerthi for that vote of confidence. I admire your pen a lot too – been loving what you have been writing too! I am going… hope you are coming along too πŸ˜‰

  2. Hugs, Shalz! I hear you!! I do think you did s great thing by releasing your angst, hurt and pent up feelings over this person who did the nasty thing! It really doesn’t matter what people say or do when you KNOW for a fact that you write amazingly well with a style that is uniquely your own! You do know it and you’ve rightly summed it up in the last para…that you will not let anyone get in the way of you and your writing. Anybody who brings in negative vibes is not worth your time and efforts! I always find your posts very honest and heartfelt, Shalz and it’s always a joy to read you! More power to you and your pen, Shalz! ❀️

    1. Thanks a tonne Esha – you have been one of my best supporters who has given me loads of confidence in my writing. I cant appreciate enough your support and love to my writing.
      Yes anyone who is bringing me down is just not worth it in my life. I am sure there was some karmic debt on my part which got released for good.
      I am only writing for myself now – no numbers (though I love to sneak a peek at them too) πŸ˜‰
      Hugs and love to you!!!

  3. Your reaction wasn’t extreme. I would probably have done the same thing had I been in your place. What I do wonder though is about the amateurish way in which she got back at you. Her jabs won’t take anything away from your writing, but they sure prove how hollow she was.
    Glad you got back to writing. Don’t ever doubt yourself because you are very good!

    1. Thanks so much Varsha! I guess at some level she was very hurt; but her perceived hurt proved very destructive. Not only her but a few of her “friends” too turned their back on me in ways only bloggers can. Ah it was proverbial “brought down to earth” kinda stuff. All honesty, it was bad judgement on my part of a few, particularly when I saw their pettiness at other times but let it slide!!
      Yup her caustic jibes in the end hurted her only! She lost a terrific friend and a blogging partner πŸ˜‰
      I am just glad to have found my pace and now I intend to fly away on my pen…………………….

  4. Don’t let anyone deter you Shalini. I have been a visitor to your blog and have left with a feeling of time-well-spent.Write for yourself and for us.Hugs to you!

    1. Thanks so much Sara – that feels so good to read! I guess I am still seeking affirmations from others πŸ˜‰
      But your writing is just superb and this WOW post is just amazing! I am rooting for it to get picked a winner!!
      Cheers & Hugs

    1. Coming form you thats huge praise Corinne and I am patting myself on my back and beaming ear to ear too! Thank you for this!
      Yes I needed to let her go and I realised that when I could hear myself rant about it again and again! Thats when I felt that let me write it out once and bury it in the cyber world for good!!
      Thank you for letting me be a part of Write tribe – its an awesome community of bloggers with a very big heart!

    1. Yes Ramya and thats what I need to believe! Thanks a tonne buddy for endorsing my writing – its such awesome support πŸ™‚

  5. Sticks and stones can break your bones but words shouldn’t bother you. I am one of your fans so my comments may be biased but remember you can’t please all of the people all of the time . But it is very disheartening to hear disparaging comments and your outburst is justified .

    1. Oh my I have a fan too!! πŸ˜‰
      Thanks Sunita – this is so sweet of you to say so and please be biased – I love it!!!
      Yes I aint pleasing everyone; infact I am only writing for me!! I dont hold dreams of monetizing my blog at all. Its a pure passion for me and I am just enjoying my writing on it!
      Thank your so much for your love and support! πŸ™‚

  6. Embrace the positives, and stay away from the negatives– easier said than done, because we tend to do just the opposite. Glad you got your groove back– I enjoyed your #writebravely posts.

    1. Thanks Damyanti – thats excellent advise and said so with a pinch of salt too πŸ˜‰
      I am glad you enjoyed my posts and thank you for being so regualr on my posts!! Cheers

  7. Oh! What the heck! But yeah one of my so called dear blogging friends told me that my writes are hurtful and it offends people. I decided to quit blogging. Stupidest decision ever. Don’t let them get you, Shalzy. Probably, crushing your spirit is what they want.

    1. Ouch Shalzz that sounds equally painful and hurtful! I am glad you didnt give up writing – yours is one of the blogs that brings a smile to my face with its graphics and looks and then the content that connects with me!! Cheers to your writing spirit too gurl!! much love

  8. My love to you and to your words will never get faded for anything or anybody. You are ENOuGH & you are YOU. Be you always dear. God made you unique and not as a copy of someone. Only the ripen fruits gets stone hits. So you take this as an envy towards your blog growth. Other bloggers envy, status hike for your own blog. Let it go. I am with you dear. Just pass these persons as an empty pausing cloud. More power to your writing. Sorry we have to survive this bloggers swallowing bloggers world with more confidence and more strength. I hope you will come out of this as Pheonix.

    1. Thank you Vasantha – you are a damn sweet person and it comes out in the way you reach out to folks. I loved your words here and just want to thank you for being ever so supportive of my blog and writing!! Cheers πŸ™‚

  9. Shalz, I am so glad you did not let one comment affect you. We also do not like the writing of all authors. Some will like us, some do not. Listen to criticism of it is constructive. Else plain ignore. I like your writing and I still remember your blue lotus post. Keep writing bravely.

    1. Wow Lata- you mentioned a post of mine from so long back!!! WOW!!! I am truly humbled by this! Thank you so much for the support and appreciation Lata! You actually made me teary eyed with this πŸ™‚

  10. Shalz my dear friend your writing is straight from the heart. You are unapologetic about your choices and that reflects in your writing. That’s what endears to me the most. Losers who try to put us down will be there everywhere. We need to master the art of being amnesiac

    1. Thanks a tonne my dear Aks – that felt very good to hear! I am glad you find my writing form the heart; made me feel successful as a writer πŸ™‚

  11. Wow…some people don’t know how to communicate when things get difficult, huh? Sorry to hear you had to go through so much self-doubt and endure such cruelty. I’m glad you’re back to writing though. Your words speak to all of us who continue to come back πŸ™‚

    1. Oh Sanchie that feels so good to read – it warmed up the cockles of my heart πŸ˜‰ A big hug to you for all of this love!! πŸ™‚ I guess most peeps have been at the receiving end of this bitterness/angst from their “critics” – I am zapped to hear back so from so many writers I love reading that this has been their experience too!!! Too much pettiness or is this the push we all needed to believe in ourselves ? πŸ˜‰

  12. Been told that too, and for a few moments, have believed it. But I honestly believe that I’m a good writer. Yes, at times, even I hate what I write, and it sucks, and I can accept that. But no, generalizing it as “my writing sucks” wouldn’t be fair. and whoever says so need to read some published books to understand what bad writing can be. Your writing is quite fine, far as what I have read, but if one or two pieces “suck”, so be it. It’ll lead you to better posts! πŸ™‚

    1. Thanks Vinay that was good to know! I like your writing and am zapped to hear someone could say you are not a good writer! Glad to know that you didnt take it to heart and are actually aware of your skills!!! Cheers my friend to writing and writing better!!! πŸ™‚

  13. I can’t believe people can be this rude no matter what. I am so glad you bounced back and wrote all those beautiful posts πŸ™‚ Your words are always so strong and honest … I love that about you, so keep writing you awesome woman πŸ™‚

    1. Ha ha ha!! It takes all kind of people to help you get where you need to be πŸ˜‰ This was my WAKE-UP call!!!! I think it eventually made me stronger and I should actually be thanking her!! πŸ™‚

      Thank you for being so warm and loving to my blog all the time Raj- I really love the way you are such a regular there and always say the nicest things. Much love and hugs Raj!!!!

  14. Oh dear, I am so sorry you had to go through that. But I am glad you managed to break through and keep on writing. There will always be trolls and haters, but you do you, and rock on!

    1. Thank you Shantala for the support and appreciation. You are right about the haters. Unfortunately It was a stranger who did this and thats why it smacked more!! I am done with it and carrying on. This post was written to get it truly out of my system. πŸ˜‰

    1. Thanks so much Michelle – I am overhwelmed by the appreciative comments this post has been getting! Thank you for the visit!! πŸ™‚

  15. I completely related to what you said. I wish we knew what we know now would have saved us from the heartache of it. But, its an important lesson… Burned but Learnt!
    I enjoy reading you. I hope you will always write from your heart & enjoy it.

    1. Ha Ha Ha Ish – if only we had foresight indeed girly!! But I guess its a learning process. You know what I hate though, the AHA moment of learning after all the bad is done to you! It literally feels HE is laughing at you! I swear HE picks on me more than anyone else πŸ˜‰

      Burnt but Learnt – brilliant stuff my darling!! I will “steal” it to use somewhere one of these days πŸ˜‰
      Cheers to your writing too – hope things are working out well at your end.

  16. You shouldn’t be bugged by such frustro and let negativity seep in. I have followed your writing and you wield a certain power Shalzz that speak directly to the soul. Keep writing.

  17. So sorry that you had to go through this, Shalz. I can imagine how devastated you must have felt. I have been blogging for 9 years now and I can tell you that discretion is definitely a better part of valour. Be careful about what you share and with whom. And let not the negativity rattle you. Stay away from such folks. Take care.

    1. Thanks for such awesome advise – now where were you before this??/ πŸ˜‰ Thanks a tonne buddy, will keep it in mind for furture!!

  18. No, I completely understand why you were upset, Shalz. When someone you consider a “friend” says stuff like that to you (especially when it comes to something your passionate about) its very easy to get upset about it. Especially if you and this “friend” were starting to become closer buddies then it feels like an even deeper betrayal.

    But I’m sorry this person said such nasty things about your writing. Because while I might not necessarily read every post you’ve written, I follow your blog because the posts of yours I choose to read are very interesting to me and I like your writing a lot.

    So even though this “friend” said some nasty things, don’t let them get to you. Because those of us who read your blog enjoy your writing and don’t want someone like that hurting you.

    1. Oh thank you so much Raney – that feels so good to hear. And thank you for taking the time to come to my blog – I love seeing your witty and warm comments on my posts πŸ™‚

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