When troubles descend on us, we often say”why me”? Its but natural to rant and rave. After all who doesn’t want the perfect life? And when things are going well because after all we have put in the hours/sweat/blood and tears; so this must be the time to celebrate and reap rich harvests – right? Then why oh why do things start to go wrong just as they begin to fall into place?
After years of being single, alone and watching everyone you know get married; you finally find someone to fall in love with, get married and then boom – it all blows up in your face!
You have settled down into holy matrimony, put away a tidy savings and its time for you to quit to plan a baby as your partner is ready – both emotionally and financially to handle the responsibility; but you are not able to conceive now.
You land the perfect job with just the right hours and salary and of course the right brand when you realise that you will have to sleep with your superiors to progress further.
Sounds familiar -right? I know there can be many more variations of these scenarios but in sum total this is the gist of all our lives. Everytime the chips fall into place and we get ready to cash out, life throws a curve that we just didn’t see coming.
“Life loves to be taken by the lapel and told,” I am with you, kid. Lets go.” – Maya Angelou
Ups and downs are part and parcel of our lives – no matter how much we may procrastinate or run away from it, this is not going to go away.
In my over four decades of life, there is one immutable law of life that I have been able to decipher and that is “this too shall pass”. I have made this my mantra to chant in times of trouble for I have realised that no matter how much I resist, the trouble still comes into my life. And I am the only one who can make it go away by handling it. I may not do it perfectly or even get it right the first time around but trust me its My trouble and only My solution works on it.
Do you know why that is? Because one size does not fit all. Puzzled? Ok let me simplify it.
Each one of us is given one measure of life that is ours and our alone. All the choices we make, paths we take and decisions we make – each one does as per their sensibilities and priorities. Because each one of us is unique and so are the “troubles” we get.
This is because each one has their own unique bandwidth to sustain shit. Each one has been given the strength to battle out their own melodramas in life. So while one person may feel others are luckier than her; others might feel she is luckier than them.
Trust me, we each get our own level of ups and down and none is luckier or unluckier than the other. Its our strength/Karma that decides the shittiness of our troubles. The wise folks say that troubles are the Universe’s way to better our present life in order to getting to a higher one in the next life.
I say troubles are life’s endeavour to keep us from getting complacent. To not forget gratitude for everything we have got in our life. Troubles are the lessons we need to think about others and share what we can – love, resources, thoughts, etc and lend a helping hand where we can.
And every trouble gets sorted in due course of time; the trick is to keep our head and not forget to give thankfulness to the divine for everything else that is there.
“Nothing is permanent in this wicked world, not even our troubles.” – Charlie Chaplin
Whats your trick to handle shit in your life? Love to hear your thoughts on my take on this.
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