I love going to this particular salon for the past eight years as I love the owner/hairstylist for her work; more importantly for her calm disposition. She is a practicing Buddhist and always appears to be on top of things without ever raising her voice. She smiles and accepts the customer is always right; melting away every complaint and earning herself a very dedicated and loyal clientele. She is someone who gives the impression of being satisfied in life.
As I sat in the hot seat while she worked on my hair, we got talking about whats happening in your life kinda stuff. I am pretty content with life at the moment is what came out of my mouth and I was quite surprised by it. As we discussed it further, I mulled over the question that was I content or just being complacent? There is fine line separating the two and which side of the line am I?
I realised that I am in a happy state about most things in my life at the moment; be it personal, health, emotional, financial, career, etc ……………………………….. I have no regrets or wants. I am quite happy to meander on the path that I am on without wondering when is my next holiday or this should go on my bucket list or I need to buy a car or when will I find a man/companion kind of relationship.
Damn I AM in a happy state, for I had found contentment!!!
But then the Devil on my shoulder whispered, “Are you indeed?”
Was I just bowing down to the inevitable and not working to improve these things in my life? Had I simply given up without knowing that I have?
No – came the reply from within. Thats not so. I have found peace and joy in my current situation. I had reached a conclusion five years ago that the rat race is not for me; hence gave up the job and moved to doing lesser work for lesser pay but with tonnes of peace of mind.
Same thing for my relationships; I moved on from the ones which were not working and working on the ones that are. I have been putting in a lot of care and time in the relationships that matter to me, ensuring those folks know how important they are to me. This is all regardless of any quid pro quid expectations. Its my choice to favour them as my most wanted; my choice to put in the efforts with a lot of joy.
I have intentionally moved away from numbers and fallen head over heels for quality!
Ok no, I havent become a saint! I have just become practical and made peace with my limitations, realised the importance of my priorities and most importantly started to believe in myself a lot. So self-love has become a huge committment to self.
There is a fine line between accepting your reality versus bowing down to mediocrity; that to me is the difference between Contentment and Complacent.
How about you folks? Where do you draw the line between contentment and complacent? I would love to hear your views on this – pls do share with me. If you have written a post for #MondayMusings, please do leave a link here for me to read it too.
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