Last week saw me riled up over two “sly” tweets by folks who claim to be a lot (if judging by their Twitter Bio), even dabbling in the mystic arts. The barrage continued till late in the week as some folks messaged those tweet to me asking if all was ok. I gave an instant thanks to the Universe for such friends who cared to check and realised that there are folks whom I need to check in with from time to time as they are truly my well wishers.
Coming back to the slyness, I wondered at my reaction. I mean these two ladies didn’t directly say anything to me – so why did it bother me? Why was I giving power to their words to hurt me?
It was because I was reacting to the unjustness of their words; fearing how others would perceive it and via it, me!
We all have this fear of being judged and constantly looking over our shoulder to ensure we appear correct and proper. But the universal truth is that we cannot please everyone and there is bound to be someone who doesn’t like us. So how to deal with such toxic people who threaten to rue our peace of mind?
” Some people create their own storms and then get mad when it rains.”
This quote hit me hard and I realised that’s exactly what it was. Both these women stabbed me and then told the whole world that they are the ones bleeding. It’s a classic case of toxic people who are insecure about themselves and take out their insecurities by pulling others down. They are basically jealous and self-centered and would like nothing better than to see you hurt by their pettiness.
One of them told me that so many twitter folks reached out to her over my “attack” on her; the ones who have had a fall out with me. Now this got me laughing; it’s truly an oxymoron statement!!! Folks who have had a fall out with me are the ones “comforting” her or rather revelling in the gossip and an opportunity to pull me down. And this “intelligent” damsel is feeling good about it; going as far as to throw it in my face? 😉
Toxic folks like to pretend to the whole world that you are in the wrong, just to ease their conscience about being bad to you. This is how they function to feel good about themselves. No body should try to hold them accountable for their shit as they are above it all.
This is an important lesson that I learnt via both these toxic women and I do thank them from the bottom of my heart for teaching me this. I did initially react a bit to their pettiness by giving out one sly tweet of mine; but I failed miserably at it.
Their pettiness didn’t go unnoticed in the virtual world and its their own perception that got rocked, not mine! I also realised how some people who seem so impressive and awe-inspiring; in reality are just posing and preening with false perceptions to guile people into falling for them. I know better now for two of them and they do seem jaded and fake now.
How do you deal with fake and toxic people in your life? What do you think about such folks?
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