Diwali thy name declutter was my mantra for this year.I have had this feeling all year-long to make space in my life by clearing out not just material stuff but relationships, people and issues too.
I started with making peace with what’s on my plate rather than asking for more or cribbing about what I don’t have .
I let go of friendships which were hurting me. Why do people insist on being friends when they don’t have time or value or need for me? I used to think these friends were unappreciative and just using me. But Maybe I was the pile-on in their lives as opposed to them being a nuisance in mine? Maybe I forced myself on them and they were too polite to tell me?
Money and work has been a major concern but that too was over thinking on my part. It all is there in my life but I have been focusing on the wrong direction.
Cleaning out my cupboards and letting go of all the material stuff I have been hoarding with excuses like;
- I will reduce 5 kg and fit into those jeans.
- I will use these glasses for when I have a large set of ppl over
- The empty jars, plastic containers, wrapping sheets, used ribbons, cardboard boxes, bubblesheet, empty perfume bottles – the list is endless…,
It’s all been building up till I am sick to the gills of seeing stuff, stuff and more stuff in every corner of my house.
So using Diwali as a starting point, the spring cleaning is on in full flow. Instead of buying new things or gifting stuff or partying with people; I have spent this Diwali in clearing out cupboards and corners of my house to make space for everything in my life to have a breathing space.
Simple rules that I am following:
♥ If I haven’t worn or used an item for 6 months, time to toss.-be it clothes, linen, crockery…..
♥ If I haven’t met or Talked to or thought about a person in 6 months, time to reassess that relationship to either re work on it or end it to put it out of my mind.
♥ I am consciously working on thinking about what I put in my mouth or in my mind- both affect my body and health.
♥ I am trying to meditate on matters close to my heart and consciously work on self love- there is nobody more important than me.
♥ I am not spending time on or with people who want me to be there for them but I can’t rely on them to do the same for me.
♥ I will take time out daily to talk to at least one friend/associate/relative who means something to me.
♥ I have to declutter my reading list- too many unread books are creating a havoc in my bookshelves.