My blog turns one this September as a Self hosted blog and so I decided to kick up some birthday celebrations and invited people to write for me.
I am so fortunate to have Kashmira Mody ( Life coach) as my first guest for this promotion for she embodies self love. I met her during a self-improvement workshop last year (which she was conducting) and what do I say, it was love at first sight for me. Her bubbly persona, vivaciousness and warmth makes her a cherished friend for life.
She has designed this amazing deck of cards for self love, meditation and mental well-being which I used to write my posts for the #NaBloPoMo last November. The posts and deck of cards were a big hit with folks.
You could connect with her at: firstname.lastname@example.org
Embracing my whole self is loving myself!
Since I promised Shalini that I would write a post on self love, I have been seeking the most profound insight I have on this topic. And here it is: Self love is the act & understanding of accepting, celebrating & finally dropping your whole self. Huh you say? Let me explain…
I grew up privileged & entitled in many ways
I had affluent parents, access to a rich & broad-spectrum education and a sharp brain. However, the real gift of my childhood was that I was raised in a gender-blind home & environment. I did not know that being a girl and then a woman was somehow a thing – something that could define who I wanted to be or what I wanted to do. I spent my childhood playing cricket with the boys, reading mystery novels & romances alike, loving science enough to study it & make it a career and always being smart-mouthed & independent.
So imagine what happens when the first boy/man who I liked says to me: Kash, you are more male than female – your brain is too sharp!
Boom! All I heard was that being intelligent or capable or financially independent and being female were somehow mutually exclusive. And I went on to attract several men who told me the same thing and then even women joined in the fun till I began to believe it too. Every hard-earned milestone I reached never matched that voice in my head that reminded me of my “un-femaleness”. Each success was just proof that I was incapable of being fully female.
Fortunately, I had a breakdown that forced me to stop and take stock. Yes fortunately – else I would have just kept going with my 2-faced life. Successful on the outside, unworthy & unloved on the inside! It took me years of therapy, meditation, reflection and understanding to learn how to embrace my whole self – my sharp brain, my keen wit, my love of cricket is as much part of my unique femininity as is my empathy and my ability to nurture.
I share my story and my journey as much as I can only so that you don’t have to take as long to figure it out – you can choose right now to embrace yourself with all its beauty & its glorious imperfections. You can choose to love yourself too.