I take it that he means adults have a large responsibility to make choices with self-awareness as we potentially influence the younger generation with our decisions and policies.
I would further amend it to call adults as terminals – a point of connection to complete the circuit for understanding/Knowledge to pass through.
Connection is the key to any and every relationship. It fosters comfort, trust and understanding between a set of people.
A great connection comes from accepting the other’s point of view without any judgement.
One shouldnt draw/presume lines of separation in any relationship. Just because “she” is your niece, it doesn’t mean you can lord yourself as superior and impose your opinion/judgement.
Age/rank/sex are no means to create divide in a relationship because a healthy relationship flourishes amongst a set of equals.
As grown ups we do set up examples for the youngsters to follow; often to go ten steps ahead too 😉 So its up to us to carefully explain the choices and the pros-cons that are part of it too.
I am often marvelled by my younger set of friends/siblings for leading an independent life; but I always point out to them that the grass is greener because I water it often. I work hard to make my choice feel good to me and have had to add financial independence to the mix. I stretch as much my bank balance can afford me to without hurting my nest egg.
I am careful to dole out relationship advise for its not my relationship to feel judgemental or emotional over it. I try to keep a third-party view on it and question more than I give out answers. Often this sorts the seeker’s queries better than me being opinionated over her choices.
I guess for me the connecting bond comes from learning about the other’s point of view. The younger set of 20s-30s have interesting ideas and thoughts; far removed from the perspective of my 40s self. I marvel at the confidence with which the younger lot feels self entitled to so much in life whereas Me at that age was scrabbling to identify myself. They are also much more street savvy than us oldsters.
At the end of the day being comfortable in one’s skin allows one to live and let live and that’s the best way to form connections with other folks.
Do you think of yourself as an influencer? Do you think youngsters resist adult advise out of it being forceful or simply because it’s not so cool?
I am taking part in The Write Tribe Problogger October 2017 Blogging Challenge and the prompt for the day is Terminal.
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Linking it up with Corinne for the Monday Musings